Family rows - ever feel caught in the crossfire?

Your wife needs to understand that blood is thicker than water. If your siblings start doing their part by helping out your mom, then that leaves you more time to be with her. Its not your fault that your siblings are morons and I would be very clear to them that you want nothing to do with them until they can apologize to your wife. Your mom will p away sooner than later and your wife will be at your side. By respecting your wife by putting her first, you are also respecting your mother who should expect no less of you.